WHY IS THE FEAR GOOD?
When one speaks of the fear, I believe that the first thing that it
is necessary to highlight that being afraid it is good, it is something
necessary in our learning process, since it teaches us to avoid dangerous
things as putting our fingers into the plug, to cross the street without
looking to the sides, etc.
But the fear is not something natural, but rather it is something learned.
The babes only fear two things:
the
strong noises
to
fall down
And their parents teach them to fear all the the other things that
they fear. I know that they do it with the intention of protecting the
baby, although they sometimes exaggerate and end up raising fearful
children.
When a child suffers pain, he knows perfectly well that he doesn't
like that, because he is experiencing it in his own flesh and blood,
he doesn't need anybody to explain to him that that is bad; but when
an adult inculcates fear in a children, he doesn't know what to expect,
he doesn't know exactly what is it that itīs going to happen, and everything
is left to his imagination. In some cases this can end up with an unjustified
extreme fear.
The changes also produce fear for the same reason, because we don't
know with what we will meet in the new situation, and this not knowing
what is it what will happen to us, can sometimes be paralyzing. That
is to say that the fear is a natural reaction toward the new, and that
the unknown usually produces insecurity feelings.
HOW TO REMOVE THE FEAR
If the fear is inculcated by other people, in the same way it can be
removed by other people when they offer us their protection.
The fear is in fact an emotion that you can accept and refuse. If it
comes to us and we allow him to stay, it scares us, if we think a lot
about the possible unpleasant consequences, it grows; but if we refuse
it, it reduces itself and ends up disappearing.
The counter attack measures will depend on the age of who suffers it.
If it is a child he will need to feel the protection of the adults,
and to know the reasons why he should not fear what he fears, while
when it is an adult, it is necessary to learn how to control the thought
processes.
It is important to understand that:
The fear is real for the one that suffers it!
When somebody tells us that he is afraid, we might think that he has
not reasons to feel what he feels, but we should not doubt that he is
afraid, and it doesn't matter if we find it reasonable or not.
The fear is not solved diminishing the one that has it, nobody stops
being afraid because someone tells him that it is ridiculous to be afraid.
Fear can only be controlled attacking its roots, and its roots are inside
the mind of each one.
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Written by Dr. Roberto A. Bonomi
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