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Do You Know That It Is Good To Have Fear?

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Why must we consider the fear as good?

When one speaks of the fear, I believe that the first thing that it is necessary to highlight that being afraid it is good, it is something necessary in our learning process, since it teaches us to avoid dangerous things as putting our fingers into the plug, to cross the street without looking to the sides, etc.

But the fear is not something natural, but rather it is something learned. The babes only fear two things:

* The strong noises

* To fall down

And their parents teach them to fear all the other things that they fear. I know that they do it with the intention of protecting the baby, although they sometimes exaggerate and end up raising fearful children.

When a child suffers pain, he knows perfectly well that he doesn’t like that, because he is experiencing it in his own flesh and blood, he doesn’t need anybody to explain to him that that is bad; but when an adult inculcates fear in a children, he doesn’t know what to expect, he doesn’t know exactly what is it that it’s going to happen, and everything is left to his imagination. In some cases this can end up with an unjustified extreme fear.

The changes also produce fear for the same reason, because we don’t know with what we will meet in the new situation, and this not knowing what is it what will happen to us, can sometimes be paralyzing. That is to say that the fear is a natural reaction toward the new, and that the unknown usually produces insecurity feelings.


If the fear is inculcated by other people, in the same way it can be removed by other people when they offer us their protection.

The fear is in fact an emotion that you can accept and refuse. If it comes to us and we allow him to stay, it scares us, if we think a lot about the possible unpleasant consequences, it grows; but if we refuse it, it reduces itself and ends up disappearing.

The counter attack measures will depend on the age of who suffers it. If it is a child he will need to feel the protection of the adults, and to know the reasons why he should not fear what he fears, while when it is an adult, it is necessary to learn how to control the thought processes.

It is important to understand that: The fear is real for the one that suffers it!

When somebody tells us that he is afraid, we might think that he has not reasons to feel what he feels, but we should not doubt that he is afraid, and it doesn’t matter if we find it reasonable or not.

The fear is not solved diminishing the one that has it, nobody stops being afraid because someone tells him that it is ridiculous to be afraid. Fear can only be controlled attacking its roots, and its roots are inside the mind of each one.

To fear is not only normal, to fear is good and you can learn why

Author: Dr. Roberto A. Bonomi

Dr. Bonomi is the author of “THE SECRET of The Magic Lamp” and it’s 42 Self Help CD with Subliminal Messages, that can be found at http://www.drbonomi.com

A Good Example Of An Useless Fear

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We should have fear to the birth and not to the death

fear of death


Since we all must die. This is truly an useless fear, but not an inappropriate fear, since an inappropriate fear is the one that can not harm us or one that we can not avoid.

The illuminated human being is immune to the death, he has the power to choose the moment in which he wants to die, and his death will also lead him to the salvation of the wheel of births.

In fact we should have fear to the birth and not to the death.

The death can be our step toward a better life, while the birth is always a step toward this lifeĀ“s suffering
Some people are so afraid to the death that ignores the topic as if it won’t happen to them. Others think morbidly about the death, and the fear that they have, prevents them to live and to enjoy life fully.

Related with the death there is a fear that is truly appropriate and it is the only one that we should have:

The fear of a useless life

It has an useless life the one that has not known how to take advantage of his life to get ready for the death, and it increases his karma instead of reducing it.

Nobody can avoid the death, (except for the realized ones) but we all can get ready for the death, and the one that has lived aware of the unavoidable of his death, and has gotten spiritually ready, when the death arrives, he can receive it in peace like the arrival of the moment of the rest, the moment in which he will receive all the prizes accumulated by his merits.


The death is something that exists as a constant reminder that invites us to fill with our lives with meaning. We know that we must die, we know that we will be judged for what we made, and this should serve us like a guide. Otherwise, there won’t be way to protect us from what comes later.

The one that is in peace with the idea of the death, not only has achieved an equanimity that is impossible to find in the non religious men, but rather it is able of sharing his peace to the friends and relatives that are next to the death.

This world is like an airport to which we arrive after having abandoned another airport, and of which we will leave again to continue our trip.

But which must be our destination?

That depends entirely on us.

In this trip between life and life, we arrive alone to the airport, we leave alone and only we can decide to not be alone during our present life.

When we arrive we don’t bring any baggage neither any baggage will we be able to take when we live, it doesn’t matter how much money, power or social position we had achieved in this life. In the moment of our departure we can only take with us the impressions of our virtuous or harmful actions in our causal body.

The one that ignores the death and wastes his life accumulating what he won’t be been able to take, (many times carrying out harmful actions to get it), it has only one destination: a new port with a heavy karma.

But the one that as he knows that he will die, he thinks about the sense of his existence, and ends up understanding that his spiritual development is the only reason for which he has been born, that one knows that he should not be afraid to the death, and should only be afraid of an useless life that will cause him a new birth in this plane of the reality.

If you suffer fear you can eliminate it practicing with my CD # 32 “Miedo” (in spanish only)

Written by Dr. Roberto A. Bonomi

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